KISSING
Kissing is probably the most physically romantic two people
can get. There really is no wrong way to kiss. The thing to remember
is
that everybody kisses differently and different people prefer
different ways of kissing. Some people, believe it or not, are
appalled at
the idea of French Kissing or using your tongue while you kiss.
While others can't imagine kissing without using your tongue.
The
thing is to try kissing that person a few times before deciding
how you and your partner prefer kissing and to get used to the
way
that person kisses.
A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are
alone. This will help to avoid any unnecessary nervousness and
embarrassing situations. The best type of kiss is one that uses
different variations, such as starting with a small kiss, working
into a
French Kiss, maybe sucking on your partner's upper or lower lip,
then trying the other two types. And don't just leave kisses to
the
lips. Kiss their cheeks, their chin or their eyelids. This can
be very seductive and romantic.
The perfect kiss is one that is done with someone you really
care about. There is more caring and sincerity in a kiss with
someone
special than with someone you hardly know, although a really good
kiss can certainly bring two people closer together.
A lot of people have been writing to us on how to overcome
the fear of kissing someone. Our answer would be to not kiss that
person
right away. Wait until an attraction builds between the two of
you and a romantic situation evolves. Go out with the person a
couple
of times before having that first kiss.
Basic Kissing Tips
Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush
your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse
than
kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having
something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a
mint
on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the
mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have
something in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you
kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't
wear
lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don't
wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it
too
after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your
lips over your partner's and gives both you and your partner a
more
pleasant experience.
Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you
move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which
way
your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the
opposite direction.
Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some
people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until
you
know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.
Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over
your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your
nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's.
You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just
leave them still over your partners.
Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you'd give your
grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips
meet,
keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner
know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye
kiss or a great first time kiss if you're nervous.
French Kissing
This is the most popular type of kiss. This involves touching
your tongue with your partner's and it can be quite a pleasant
experience. There are a few tips to create a great french kiss.
Open Lips - Open your lips over your partner's slightly more
than you would during a regular kiss. This makes it easier to
place your
tongue in your partner's mouth.
Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's
tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If
you
wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your
own. Have fun with it. Explore.
Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue.
Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do
this slowly
and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.
Suck Kissing
This can be a very seductive type of kiss. Instead of French
Kissing with your mouth open, while your partner's lips are parted
suck
on their top our bottom lip with your own, just for a second or
two. Then go back to another type of kiss or try the other lip.
Nip Kissing
This type of kiss has to be done carefully, but when done correctly
can create a wonderful effect on your partner. While suck
kissing, gently bite their lip, but be VERY gentle so as not to
hurt your partner. This kiss should only be done with someone
that
you've kissed a few times before, otherwise you may shock your
partner.
Surprise Kissing
This type of kiss is done when your partner is lying down on
a sofa or the ground, either asleep or just lying with their eyes
closed.
Quietly approach your partner and place a small, very gentle kiss
on their lips. Intensify the kiss until your partner opens their
eyes
or awakens.